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This is a hard one today so read with an open heart.
Isn’t the world harsh enough for our children? Why do we make our homes even harsher? Full of endless criticism. The world gives our children enough consequences, especially in the teenage years.
The sad reality is that many children can’t stand being at home because of the endless lecturing and criticism and control they experience there. For many kids, home is the place where they are criticized the most.
Their response? They shut down and don’t want to be there.
One of our values in our home is to make our home a safe place full of peace. Our children’s friends comment on how peaceful our home is and they share things with us sometimes. We ask them, “Have you told your parents about this?” Many times they respond with, “Oh no. They would just freak out about it.” Or “Oh no. My parents really don’t care about my life that much.”
Home needs to be the safest place in our children’s lives.
It needs to be a place of fun and laughter and a place where they can share their thoughts without fear of being disciplined too harshly.
How do we create a safe, peaceful home? It’s not about being easy. It’s more about focus. If you focus on your home being a place where you correct faults, then your home will be known for that. If you focus on your home being a place to listen and inspire your kids, then it will be know for that. Your choice.
What do you want your home to look like? We believe your home should be a place where your kids feel safe and loved.
In Basecamp, we have a course called Safe Haven which shows you how to make your home a more peaceful and listening home. Check it out!